Whenever I am
with certain people because of either their authority over me or people who I
just do not want to embarrass myself in front of, usually teachers, friends,
coaches at tryouts, college admission staffs, and even my parents sometimes.
Now I know that all the people say that they know me, but the question is, is
that do they actually know me for who I am, or how they see or perceive me to
be. If people were not to judge me, they I feel like I would be more confident
in activities and aspects that are not in my comfort zone. Everything I do would be more spontaneous,
and those activities and aspects about me that are in my comfort zone would
thrive to be near to, or if not at perfection. Soccer is one thing that I am
confident of because it is in my comfort zone. I know that people are judging
me when I play because that is basically just part of the game. With every
sport you are constantly getting judged. You're getting judged by your opponents, fans, coaches, game
officials, your own teammates, if it is a team sport, but mostly you are
judging yourself. If I channeled all of
my confidence from soccer into something that is not in my comfort zone like
basketball, then I feel like I would be a much better player because I know
that no one is judging me and the fact that I can play, just to play the game
and not to try to impress anyone. Now channel that analogy to life in general.
People, I know that I certainly do, are always trying to impress everyone, even
just down to their morning routine by trying to make themselves look
presentable. If I knew that no one would be judging me, then I would be my
crazy, energetic self that loves to be active and just randomly blurt out into
song, even though I am extremely tone deaf, but then reality kicks in and you
realize that you're in a world filled with judgmental people that you really
cannot escape no matter how hard you try, you're stuck, but the best thing I
can do is just not think about the people who I am trying to impress and just
go along with my day and live life to the fullest.
I agree! For me, having just started to play field hockey last year I get nervous because I do not want to embarrass myself or let my team down my not performing to my fullest potential. I think that it shouldn't be about trying to impress someone or wanting to look "normal" in front of people, because when it comes down to it, these people you meet (especially in high school) are only one little part of your life. Half of the people you know won't remember that one time you did something embarrassing when you were 15 when we're all adults. When it comes down to it, just live your life the way you want to and do what makes you feel happy! :)
ReplyDeleteAuthor, I agree with you very much. Every single person is judging your everything. Your posture, the way you dress, what kind of computer you have. For example, if you have a mac, your perceived as wealthier. Whether people are judging you in their head, talking to other people about it, or plan to later behind your back, talk about you and your quirks. Only alone in your room can you really be yourself, but even then people may see you as a loner.
ReplyDeleteI am more of an outgoing person. So those things you mentioned, breaking into song randomly, or being energetic, I do it anyways. That's not to say I don't care about how people judge me,I do so much. Especially with things like looks and sports. It's actually a pet peeve of mine, and I'm trying to tone myself done. But I guess it's just not the first thing that comes into my mind. I like that about myself, that what other people think of me is not the first thing that comes to my mind.
So Author, a hard as it may be try not to think too much about what others are thinking (:
I feel like this essay is ver well written. I think the author chose the words well. Since, readers can mostly relate to the topic about how we all try to live up to the expectations of the others, we get persuaded and it motivates us to release our thoughts towards this topic. I enjoyed this writing :)
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ReplyDeleteWhether or not we mean to, we are always trying to impress on another. Because we are always challenged to look better, be better at sports, etc., there is never "good enough." Even when it is good enough for others, it will not be good enough for ourselves. Everyone has such high standards these days. We all say that we are being 100% ourselves, but i do not think we are. I do not know anyone who would do something embarrassing in front of a group of people just for the fun of it. In a perfect world, no one would judge you, and you could do or act in any way you wanted. It is good to be yourself all of the time, whether you are comfortable enough to do so or not
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